Wife Discovers Husband's Drug Use and Infidelity
In a letter to Papa Joe, a woman shares her struggle after discovering her husband's drug use and infidelity in January. She writes that he initially denied it, but later admitted to multiple instances, blaming their major arguments for his temptation. He even blamed her for his actions. Since then, he has been using drugs about three times a week. However, she notes that since being caught, he has been making efforts to change, gaining weight and looking healthier.
Efforts at Recovery and Lingering Resentment
Despite his efforts, the wife cannot help but bring up his past mistakes during any small disagreement. Although he never neglected their family and continues to provide his salary, she feels deeply betrayed. She sometimes fabricates stories of him having an affair, even though there is no evidence. Married for only two years, she feels exhausted and considers giving up. From February until last month, he never responded to her hurtful remarks, acknowledging his wrongdoing. But last week, he seemed to have had enough, possibly because she went too far.
Papa Joe's Advice: Focus on the Present and Seek God
Papa Joe advises the wife to recognize that they are still in an adjustment period, just beginning to truly know each other's characters. He urges her to stop dwelling on past mistakes that have been corrected, as it may lead to fatigue and damage their relationship. He also warns against fabricating stories, suggesting instead that they draw closer to God and place Him at the center of their relationship. He advises against rushing into decisions that she may regret later.
